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The Modern Feminist

Okay lovelies, how are we doing this week? I’m terribly sorry I didn’t drop any post last week, life you know 🀷, lol. Do forgive. How has being an independent and forward thinking individual been this week? Stressful I can imagine πŸ˜‚πŸ˜©. Okay, to this week’s post.

This particular post is more to the female feminists among us but the male might relate. So, I need someone to tell me why on earth I didn’t get the memo that feminists do not like romantic gestures, cause I just don’t get it.

Like, I was talking to a guy a while back and somehow the conversation got into relationships and stuff. Earlier in our conversation, it had come out that I was a feminist so he knew. And then he goes, “someone like you now, all these feminist, you won’t like romantic guys, you want to be the man in the relationship…” Blah blah blah. I am paraphrasing obviously, he didn’t even put his thoughts out that properly. I don’t even know what that be the man in your relationship is supposed to mean, but that’s a fight for another day.

Lmaooooo, please ooo, let me counteract that particular memo and tell you that being a feminist doesn’t mean that we don’t want surprises or romantic gestures. I want chocolates, I want to be taken out on dates, I want to be spoilt and pampered.

Just because I say that we are equals, and we should relate as such doesn’t mean you should not have sense plix. Obviously, this is going to be mutual. I’ll do these things to whoever I’m in a relationship with, and we’ll both enjoy it.

Honestly, the amount of misconceptions around feminism and equality is staggering but I feel like misunderstandings like this shouldn’t even exist again, lol. E go be sha. Now, this doesn’t mean that all feminists want this, but this has nothing to do with feminism but rather the individuals. Some people generally don’t like romantic gestures or surprises, they just don’t respond to it. We all have different love languages and some people’s psyche doesn’t really tap into all that shenanigans.

So people, please, stop assuming things about other people generally and mostly not about feminists. Feminism doesn’t mean that all the functions of our heart besides pumping blood is dead or that we’re some individuals that are just cold and hard hearted. Thank you very much πŸ˜‘πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚

Have you guys ever been in a situation where this was assumed of you? How did you deal with it? Please share your thoughts and experiences in the comment section.

Till next week for another post, I love you all.


Published by Samiat Olayide

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4 thoughts on “The Modern Feminist

  1. Lol…most Nigerians, men and women alike do not know what feminism entails. Some women are just sad fellows, not feminists. The most painful part of this ignorance is they prefer to wallow in it than get enlightened.


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