The Modern Feminist

Hey people, how are we doing? It has been a lovely day and I hope you tried to enjoy it despite this lockdown situation. Lol. I took an long hour walk πŸ˜‚πŸ₯ΊπŸ₯Ί.

Okay, to the topic of the day “A WOMAN IS ALWAYS RIGHT.” This is a statement that has the been used for the longest of times. It’s mostly said to men who are about to get married. You hear his father or any father figure or older male tell him that he should make sure to always apologize first to preserve his marriage. Lmaooooo.

Now, I’m all for compromising and being the “bigger” person to save your relationship and to keep peace but that statement is just all shades of wrong and causes way more problems than it solves.

To assume that someone is always right that means no matter what they do wrong you have to apologize, even when they’re clearly in the wrong. In this situation, it is inevitable that resentments start to build.

Remember when as a kid you were made to apologize to your parents even when they were wrong or atleast you did nothing wrong, you know how that felt. And those were your parents, imagine having to do that all the time to someone who’s supposed to be your partner? Exactly.

Then there’s the fact that most times, it prevents actual remorse. You’ll hear a lot of guys say stuff like; ” she started nagging again, I didn’t even listen. I just told her sorry and left. You know how all those women can be.” πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. And can you blame them.

When you say sorry most times, it makes it hard for someone to be able to say anything again cos everyone goes, “he already apologized.” And you’re there looking like a fool, cos you know the issue wasn’t an apology, especially not an half assed one to keep you quiet. The guy gets off looking “mature” and once more, the female species are made to look like frivolous, childish people who complain about nothing.

Let’s also not forget that when one apologizes to shut you up or seem “mature” they end up not even knowing what they’re apologizing for. I don’t know about you, but I always want to know if the person apologizing to me even knows why they’re apologizing.

It’s very important, because I’m more interested in not having the same arguments every week than in your fake a*s apology. No offense.

So, you end up with a guy who apologizes because it’s the “manly” thing to do and he can’t be caught dead arguing with a woman. You end up not discussing the actual issue and if he’s one of those manipulative kinds, he even buys you stuff so you really can’t say anything. And then in a week, when the same situation arises, you’re labelled a complainer.

Guys, so as to prevent being resentful to your partners from apologizing for nothing and ladies so as not to end up with a man child who has no conflict resolution skills, a woman is not always right. No human being is.

This is not to say you can’t apologize sometimes either person, cause not every issue is argument worthy and sometimes you really are wrong but don’t loose communication and don’t ever take your partner for granted.

N. B. All this is my personal opinions and from my experiences. They don’t have to apply to you and can be challenged respectfully.

What do you guys think about it? I’ll love to hear in the comment section. Till next week guys.

Amy ❣️

Published by Samiat Olayide

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