Hello members of Amy’s Clan, we are in for a bit of a serious discussion today so, buckle up and welcome to…
Before I start, I’ll like to say something really quickly. This has been a tremendously stressful and traumatic period for me and I’m sure a whole lot of people. If as a creative/creator, you still manage to create content as you usually do, you have no idea how much strength resides in you, kudos! Now, to the discussion of the day
From the absence of a flash fiction above, I’m sure we can already sense that this isn’t a regular post and it’s a little serious and it is.
I hear about this a whole lot but I didn’t really believed that it happened in real life until this #saynotorape revolution started. So, apparently, according to some women, NO means NO but no, sometimes also means “try a bit harder” or something like that. So apparently, some women go to a guys place, he wants to get down on her, she refuses and he respects her choice only for her to get home and send him a text or talk over the phone of how he should have tried harder? That she was expecting him to force her or something like that. Some females actually see a guy that respects their decisions as not “manly” enough? Good lord! Where to start from?
Ladies, ladies, ladies, if you do this or you think it’s appropriate, please put your hand on your chest and say “I am part of the problem, I am an enabler and that has to change because it is wrong.” Done that? Thank you
Now, I know for the longest time that sexual liberation has been almost impossible for the female folks of our beloved society and it is a work in progress. But darling, if you do that please stop. I’ll tell you why. You see when you tell a guy that, you make it seem like that’s what all females want and due to the fact that we still have a bunch of gullible guys who think all women are the same, some believe it. Now, he goes on the next girl, who genuinely wants him to stop but he thinks she’s just like you and he doesn’t. Or you find yourself in a position where you really want him to stop, but he doesn’t. This doesn’t in any way excuse the behaviour and no should always mean no. You can see where some confusion can erupt from when you’ve told him that your no means yes but I’m playing hard to get. Please stop!!!
There’s absolutely nothing to be ashamed of if you want sex. You wanna have sex? That’s natural and normal, open your big mouth and say so, you don’t? Open you mouth and say so. Stop being so utterly childish and putting not just yourself, but other females in danger.
And for the guys, I really cannot stress this enough, NO means NO. Don’t let anyone put you in trouble. Even if she sends that text saying you should have tried harder, the next time she or anyone else says no, please stop. Do not manipulate or gaslight any female into saying yes and you know it in your heart when a female really doesn’t want to and only says so to stay out of trouble.
That is what I’m referring to by manipulating or gaslighting or downright threatening. I believe even a contract signed under duress is null, so is consent gotten under duress. If a female isn’t in a position to say no due to some circumstances that you have put in place and you have sex with her, it’s rape.
Bottom line, ladies please make up your mind and be unapologetic about it. There’s no shame in sex and if you feel ashamed then you probably shouldn’t be having it yet until you figure out why you feel that way. Guys! NO is NO and will always mean NO. Do not let any indecisive and confused female to put you in any kind of trouble.
I believe even if I didn’t communicate this in the most understandable language due to the enormous stress I’m under, we are all smart enough to understand what the message is.
Guys, have you ever heard of this absurdity before? What’d you think of it? I wanna hear your thoughts in the comment section, so please indulge me🤭.
Still, I love you all (except you’re a rapist, an apologist or enabler then I don’t) so please stay safe, stay sane and stay healthy. Till next time.