The Modern Feminist

Hey my ladies and gentlemen of the modern era, It’s another week and we all know what that means. Welcome to

Feminism and Sexuality

How has your week been? It’s Wednesday, so we’re half way through it. Yaaaaaaaaay 🥳. Anyways, let’s dive right into this week’s post.

I was reading this book on Wattpad titled Collared and it is kinda the inspiration for this week’s post.

The book is basically about this young woman, Abigail who works in a Feminist publishing company owned by her mum and a very sucessful Greek American architect Preston Tristan. Now, Abby has always been into the kinkier side of life, if you know what I mean. You don’t? Okay, I mean BDSM Specifically the S and M part. She’s a Submissive and a Masochist. Tristan is a Dominant and a Sadist who owns an exclusive BDSM club.

For the most part of her life, Abby has been pretty closeted about that part of her life. She didn’t understand how to reconcile her love to be controlled and brutally humiliated with her passion for equal rights for women which brings us to today’s topic ” Feminism and Sexuality.”

I’ll like to reiterate that unless otherwise stated, anything and everything I say on this blog post, previous or subsequent ones are my personal opinions backed by facts that I provide when necessary. You don’t have to agree with them. Thank you 😊



So, how do you reconcile certain sexual fantasies, fetishes etc with the continuous fight for equality? Well, you just do.

I’ll have you remember that it’s because of these fights that a woman can even say at any point in time that she’s a sub or a dom or a masochist or whatever else there is. A while back, or not so much anyways, we were all expected to be submissives and not the good kind. We had and still unfortunately have partners who don’t give two fucks how we felt or what we were into. It took the courage of our collective effort to be able to look scumbags in the eyes and tell them No! No. No. No. No. No. No. Nopitty. Nope!
No. Thank you very much sir, but you are crap.

Now, evolving, we are discovering more about ourselves, more about our likes and needs and some of them seem to be in direct contrast with our fights and we just are stuck. I for one am so glad we are at a stage we even have choices to be confused over. But you’re thinking, I want equal rights with a man who I also want to slap me senseless. How does that even work?😂 I’ll tell you how.



For those of you who actually have good knowledge about the BDSM world, you know that the sub is always in charge. It’s why it’s consented and most times has a contract and stuff. The minute YOU decide you’re no longer into, YOU can put an end to it. You control what happens to you, how, when and by who, even for how long. You might be the one on your knees saying “Master Please” but he’s truly the one begging.

What I’m trying to say with all these long talk 😂 is that, whatever sexual fantasies you have, you live in a world that’s constantly fighting for your right to choose them. Do not put all our collective work to shame by letting anyone make you feel wrong about it. Okay? Good. Insofar as it’s your choice and consented to, then please baby girl, go be a hoe!🙈😂 Or not too 🤭

I struggled with all these myself too and still am so I honestly know how difficult it can be. The most important thing is to be true to yourself and your needs. When you love yourself, what you truly want or need will be clearer. Just go with that shamelessly. Remember to make sure you’re not hurting anyone and you don’t abandon your principles.

That’s my gist for this week. What do you think about it? Would you be giving the book a glance? Let me hear all your thoughts in the comment section below.

Also, quick reminder to attend my upcoming virtual book launch. To join, click here

I love you all. Till next week, stay safe, stay sane and stay healthy.

Amy ❣️

Published by Samiat Olayide

Hey there! I'm a freelance writer and a podcaster. I create stories from words and build kingdoms with the flick of my wrist. I can create any form of written work you wish, from articles to short stories, script plotlines, or just short messages for shirts or your loved ones, if it's words, I can. Or if you're not in need of those and you're not the "reading" type, just follow me on IG and like my posts. Also, if you can, listen to my podcast as it'll mean a lot to me and don't forget to share. I. G. _amysartistry Thank you very much

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