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I’m back and welcome to another post on sex sex sex 🥳🥳🥳. I’m sure all you pervs are excited 😂.
So today, we will be talking about sexualities, two in particular that I feel aren’t talked about enough. Now, I don’t belong to either one of them so if I misrepresent please let me know in the comment section below. We are all learning. Now, let’s get right into it.
Asexuality and Demisexuality
Asexuality is according to Wikipedia the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity. It may be considered a sexual orientation or the lack thereof. While;
Demisexuality is according to Healthline a sexual orientation where people only experience sexual attraction to folks that they have close emotional connections with.
Starting with the former, asexuals are normal humans like you and I who just don’t seem to find interest in sex or find anyone particularly sexual. Now, they do sometimes have sexual desire and libido but they don’t find anyone sexually appealing. So, quite a number of them masturbate to calm their sexual urges. This doesn’t mean asexual people don’t have relationships or don’t get married, they do and they sometimes also have sex for certain reasons which include;
Satisfying their sexual libido, conceiving children, satisfying their partners, to have the sexual experience and so on. It’s worthy to note that asexuality isn’t the same thing as abstinence or celibacy which are both choice and asexuality isn’t. Also, an asexual person doesn’t necessarily not have sex as I’ve mentioned earlier. It is also not a medical condition, nothing is wrong with asexual people, they don’t need to be treated or worked upon. It is just how they are.
Now, moving on to the latter, Demisexuality. Demisexual people only feel sexually attracted to people who they have formed a deep emotional bond with. They can be straight, gay or of any sexual orientation but only develop sexual attraction with people they’ve known and bonded with. This doesn’t mean to say they are attracted to every person who they share a deep bond with. And the bond doesn’t necessarily have to be romantic (they don’t have to be in love with the person), it can be platonic based on friendship bonds.
Demisexual people do not feel primary attraction, which is the feeling you have towards a person you just met. They only feel secondary attraction, that is feelings that develop over time. Demisexuality doesn’t mean someone is a prude or scared of sex, they just don’t feel sexually attracted to people they just met. It’s not as a result of a moral or religious choice, it’s not a choice at all. It’s now they’re wired. It is also not caused by an underlying trauma or medical condition, it’s not a problem that needs to be fixed.
Asexuality and Demisexuality are two sexual orientation or preferences that people misconstrue more often than not. People belonging to these groups have to deal with a lot of criticism and stereotypes. I hope you learnt a thing or two from this and that in the future, you do a little research on a subject before forming an opinion.
Till next time, class is dismissed.