Hey horny dudes and dudettes, what’s happening? Are we all good, ready for this week’s post? Okay, let’s get into it.

So, if you’ve not already deduced it from the topic, we’re talking about masturbation today. What is it? Is it good or dangerous to self? Let’s find out.

According to WebMD, “Masturbation is the self-stimulation of the genitals to achieve sexual arousal and pleasure, usually to the point of orgasm (sexual climax). It is commonly done by touching, stroking, or massaging the penis or clitoris until an orgasm is achieved.”

Masturbating basically means you have sex with your self, by yourself or sometimes with a partner. It is a totally healthy human behaviour and poses no threat to the health. Growing up, as toddlers, we all masturbated. Unconsciously.

Due to the shame and guilt around it, most people stopped. Out of curiosity, some persisted.

In my opinion, it is important to practice the art of self pleasuring. It’s hard to know what to tell someone to do to you without knowing it yourself, and for sex to be pleasurable knowledge is important. Statistically, more males than females masturbate and most females practice guilty masturbation.

That means, you do it because you can’t help it, and at the end feel completely disgusted by yourself for no reason other than misplaced guilt, from society and religion. This kind of experience can lead to compulsive masturbation which isn’t healthy or pleasurable.

Touching yourself should be something you do because you want to, and because you understand that your body needs it. It is figuring out the parts of your body that make you sing, and some parts that no one but you will be able to get to. If you experience guilt from masturbation, it’s recommended you talk to someone about it

Granted, there are the mental blocks created by religious beliefs which put it out as a sin and it’s totally fine to abide by your faith. But if you’re already having sex, which is also a sin, masturbating can’t be that bad, especially when it makes you feel so good.

Also, if you’ve not started having sex, masturbating is a great way to quell the growing needs in you and to figure out your body before your sexual partners.

It is also great to note that masturbation helps to; relieve built-up stress, sleep better, boost your mood, feel pleasure, relieve menstrual cramps, have better sex, and most importantly it does wonders for your self esteem and improves self love.

Masturbating doesn’t cause a decline in sexual sensitivity or reduced interest in sex. In fact, two 2009 studies found that vibrator use among women and men has been linked to an increase in desire, arousal, and overall sexual function. Women also reported an increase in lubrication, while men reported better erectile function, according to the studies.

Masturbation doesnโ€™t have any harmful side effects. However, some people may feel guilty about masturbating or have issues with chronic masturbation which could lead them to,

  • Skip chores or daily activities
  • Miss work or school
  • Cancel plans with friends or family
  • Miss important social events

Some ways to combat addiction or chronic masturbation are;

  • Going for a run
  • Writing in a journals
  • Spending time with friends
  • Going for a walk, etc…

Bottom line, masturbation is healthy and totally recommended. So, dim those lights, and get to pleasuring yourself.

Till next week, for another sexy post. Remember to stay clear of crowds, stay healthy and please stay safe.

And as always, I wanna hear your thoughts and experiences so please, make use of the comment section down below!!!

I love you

Amy โฃ๏ธ

The Modern Feminist

Okay lovelies, how are we doing this week? I’m terribly sorry I didn’t drop any post last week, life you know ๐Ÿคท, lol. Do forgive. How has being an independent and forward thinking individual been this week? Stressful I can imagine ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜ฉ. Okay, to this week’s post.

This particular post is more to the female feminists among us but the male might relate. So, I need someone to tell me why on earth I didn’t get the memo that feminists do not like romantic gestures, cause I just don’t get it.

Like, I was talking to a guy a while back and somehow the conversation got into relationships and stuff. Earlier in our conversation, it had come out that I was a feminist so he knew. And then he goes, “someone like you now, all these feminist, you won’t like romantic guys, you want to be the man in the relationship…” Blah blah blah. I am paraphrasing obviously, he didn’t even put his thoughts out that properly. I don’t even know what that be the man in your relationship is supposed to mean, but that’s a fight for another day.

Lmaooooo, please ooo, let me counteract that particular memo and tell you that being a feminist doesn’t mean that we don’t want surprises or romantic gestures. I want chocolates, I want to be taken out on dates, I want to be spoilt and pampered.

Just because I say that we are equals, and we should relate as such doesn’t mean you should not have sense plix. Obviously, this is going to be mutual. I’ll do these things to whoever I’m in a relationship with, and we’ll both enjoy it.

Honestly, the amount of misconceptions around feminism and equality is staggering but I feel like misunderstandings like this shouldn’t even exist again, lol. E go be sha. Now, this doesn’t mean that all feminists want this, but this has nothing to do with feminism but rather the individuals. Some people generally don’t like romantic gestures or surprises, they just don’t respond to it. We all have different love languages and some people’s psyche doesn’t really tap into all that shenanigans.

So people, please, stop assuming things about other people generally and mostly not about feminists. Feminism doesn’t mean that all the functions of our heart besides pumping blood is dead or that we’re some individuals that are just cold and hard hearted. Thank you very much ๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‚ ๐Ÿ˜‚

Have you guys ever been in a situation where this was assumed of you? How did you deal with it? Please share your thoughts and experiences in the comment section.

Till next week for another post, I love you all.


Just Amy

Hey, it’s another week with another post. I know, it’s not the regular day we agreed on and I’m sorry about that. It’s just we all know this by now but life f**ks shit up, pardon my french. I’ll try my hardest to not let this happen again but I really can’t promise ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚. Forgive me?๐Ÿฅบ

Now, into today’s post, welcome people!!!

God my week has been craaaazy!!! I made the decision this week that I’m working out from home, that gym thing ain’t gonna work out, lol. I can’t really. School has been school as usual, stressful asf bhet, God dey.

What I really wanna talk about today is something I’m sure a lot of people can relate to. I’m tired, lol. I’m exhausted really and it’s not going away. There seems to be more and more bad things happening in the world and happening to me and for a lot of us happiness is as much of a fairytale as Cinderella’s glass slippers.

I have amazing friends tho that make it easier, so I’ll advise that. Reach out to your friends, both for yourself and for them too, help each other.

Also, Gaea wanted to be madt this weekend and she as mother nature sent me the red alert. Awon agba cock blocker, but my God pass am๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚, we mooooove.

Honestly, I don’t have any particular highlight of the week, or anything special that happened other than life itself. I’m still here, I’m still alive and I’m pushing. I send out love and light to everyone reading this. Whatever it is that seems like a lot, I’m not promising it’ll get better, I do know however that you’ll get stronger.

How was your previous week and how is this week going for you? Reply in the comment section, let’s talk.

Stay strong, stay alive, stay beautiful. I love y’all, thank you for reading. Till next week!



Hey there you, welcome to the first official post for Sexcapades. From the last post, I already broke down exactly what’s gonna be happening in this segment, so strap your sit belts or your binding leather if you know what I mean, and let’s get started.

So, I would like us to address something before we get into the topic and that is, ladies watch porn too!!! And statistics show that even more than guys, would you look at that? ๐Ÿ˜‚ So please, stop looking like a lost puppy whenever you hear a female say so.

Now, into the main thing, Should porn be a point of reference for sexual knowledge?
We all know what porn is, if you’re here and you don’t, then you probably shouldn’t be boo. Anyways, porn videos are very sexy and to a large extent they get people hot and bothered and stuff but could it serve as an educational point, that I do not agree on.

Porn videos most times are watched for visual satisfaction and most often than not, the images don’t really stick to your head, that is you forget it once you stop. It’s really only good for the here and now. Not to mention the fact that, a bunch of the shit they do there doesn’t even work in real life ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚. Now I’m sure you have the question, how then do I get educated on sexual activities, well let me let you in on a big secret, Books! You’re shocked? Me too!!!

That all the knowledge you could possibly want on that particular subject in written on those pages in black ink, very mind blowing. Should I tell you another way you could navigate this sexual world? Wait for it, wait for it… talking to the person who you’re in it with.

Dammit! I feel betrayed ๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿคฆ. How come nobody told me this. That means you can ask the person with which you wanna get freaky with, exactly what they want, instead of assuming. Wow, such loads of knowledge hitting me rn ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿฅณ.
To cut this already long story short, read books and communicate. Now some of you are gonna come saying books are this and that, I’m not asking you to read biology textbooks ooo. I’m talking fiction, erotica. They’re like porn but written and so much more explanatory. In my opinion, the only time porn could serve as an exchange for books is if it came with a narrator who explains what’s happening step by step.

Until then, please read books and stop frustrating yourselves. And I’m not talking to just guys๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‘.

Have you had a sexual encounter with someone who was clueless? Or have heard about one? How was it? What’s your own opinion on this? Let me know all about it in the comment section.

Until next week with another sexy adventure, I bid thee farewell. Enjoy your weekend.

Love- Amyโฃ๏ธ

Just Amy

Okay guys, welcome. It’s time for another post on…

Yeah, that was the highlight of my week, the GYM.

Let me just catch you up real quick. I was on my own, just chilling ooo, when momma told me she registered to the gym. I was like, cool. You do you and all that, you know what I’m saying. Then she comes back after the first day, looking like a soldier coming back from war and according to her, feeling even worse.

I was like, those guys are pushing too hard but you can do it. Then the suggestion that will change my life forever came,

“why don’t you come with me?” She asked,

“it’ll make it easier.” ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚. And the good daughter in me said yes. Lmaooooo. And so, I dug my grave.

So, I got to the gym the next day, first things first, warm up. I went on one of those bicycle thingies but the standing one. 5 minutes in, I was already feeling dizzy ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿคฆ. Worst off, the fan there wasn’t working and the whole place was boiling hot. I could hear the hair on my skin crackling. Jesus of Nazareth!

Ten minutes sha complete and I got down, had to get air. So I went to the men’s corner cos their fan works.

That’s how I was noticed, ladies and gentlemen, then the real workout began. Ahhhhhhhhh, my pipu. Hmmmmm, God dey. The rest of the day was a blur between me tryna keep my cool and not pass out at the same time.

These guys made me do 20 reps of sit-ups, 3 sets, twice!!! That’s 120 reps of abdominal massages. My stomach felt like led, hot led for the entire week. And another one was saying it should have been five sets twice. Chimooooo, these people are out for blood.

The next time I went there, I told them no abs workout, cos my launch was the next day and I would have liked to be able to laugh at my own launch๐Ÿ˜‘. The guy available was like, no abs right, no wahala. My pipu, I realized too late that it was a personal vendetta ๐Ÿฅบ. The guy suddenly mean me.

Let’s just say for now, I sit and stand like a 7 months pregnant female or an 85 year old woman. My back ehn, you din wanna know. On top say I wan fit. God dey!

The only good thing about this whole thing is that, dayuuuummmm, those boys are fiiiiiinnnnneee๐Ÿคค

With their hot sweaty body, all the muscles and biceps rippling๐Ÿฅต. Watawu. So many fine children of women, daughter of Zion was very invested ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚.

Bhet, later when I’m in pains, I din really think it is worth it๐Ÿ˜ฉ. Those people were just angry and transferring on me. Now I have to continue this week cos I’ve registered for this month. God dey sha๐Ÿ˜ข.

Anyways, I also wanted to add that if you’re not in a certain level of self love and acceptance, knowing that you’re going to the gym to get better and not become someone else, don’t go boo. The pressure, the expectations, if you’re not firm in your own acceptance of your body, it’s easy to loose track and start trying too hard to be like someone else and that never ends well.

If you’re gonna workout at any level or in any form, do it for you, to make a better you, not to look like those people in the posters and on IG. Not saying anything is wrong with them, just that they’re not you.

Have you ever been to the gym or tried working out in the past or lately? Or can you relate to what I’ve written? What has your experience been like, let’s hear it. ๐Ÿฅณ๐Ÿฅณ๐Ÿฅณ

Happy International Women’s Day everyone, till next week for another post on this segment. Stay beautiful



Hello pervs, welcome, welcome, sit, sit. It’s time for

Hey there girlfriend, are you shy? Come on out. I know you probably don’t wanna be caught dead reading something titled Sexcapades, but a girl’s gotta get her info and juice somewhere right? ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿ˜‰.

Oh, aren’t you handsome! I know, it makes you feel less macho that you’re actually trying to understand the workings of sex and not just pretend you know it. Don’t mind the guys, you’re doing just fine.

Join me on this sexy adventure, where we talk about all things sex. From positions, to basic tips and even clear some popular misconceptions. Separate myths from facts . And maybe, if you’re lucky, I’ll let you in on some of my personal sexy time๐Ÿ˜‰.

Stay tuned for sex, sex, sex and don’t forget to use to comment section to drop your thoughts about every post, you know so we get to interact. Until next week on this sexy adventure, bye my little pervs and pervetes (not a real word, I know๐Ÿ˜‚).


The Modern Feminist

Hey there beautiful people, welcome to…

I am a feminist, and I am a modern lady. We can all agree that sometimes navigating the world as a Modern Feminist, can be a bit of an issue.

There are so many feminists and their ideals, there are the Twitter feminists too, and let’s not forget the celebrities. It can be infuriating and exhausting to deal with all the info and finding the right path to follow sometimes can be tedious.

Now, I’m not here to offer some sage advice on how best to be a feminist, cause I’m still figuring stuff out too. I’m just gonna talk to you about my own struggles, how it’s been working out, and what’s not working. Also, you share yours too, help someone else and everyone’s happy.

I know, this first post seems like a bit slow but trust me, shit’s about to get crazy. You don’t know it yet but you are in for a lot of mind-blowing stuff. Just sit tight and let’s talk feminism.


Just Amy

Hey peeps, welcome to this segment of my blog.

In Just Amy, I’ll be writing weekly shenanigans I’ve been up to. Just think of this place as my rant period and if you read and maybe share yours in the comment section, I’ll be really glad. I can’t wait to tell you all about my week, weekly and hear about yours. We are gonna be best buds, ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚.

Also, we could start now by telling me what the highlight of your week was in the comment section, we could some things in common.

Kisses ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜. Till next week for our rant hour ๐Ÿ˜‚, byeeeee.


Melancholia Release

Hey there lovely, so you’ve been anticipating this for a long while and it’s here now. I cannot wait for you to read this and enjoy it as much as I did. Melancholia is now available for your reading pleasure on;

All of which you can access through my link tree down below. Paperback on Roving Heights and Lulu and ebook on Lulu, Amazon and Okadabooks. Please when you’re done reading, drop a comment, let others know how much you enjoyed reading and share too, let others enjoy in this beauty of my art.

Welcome ๐Ÿฅณ

Hey there you, so welcome to my personal blog. I think we’re gonna have so much fun. So, let me just break down what I do.

I’m a writer, and a content creator and just a general freak ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ and so I decided that more people need to be let into this circus, you know what I mean?๐Ÿ˜‰

So, basically, there will be three constant categories of writing that I’ll be posting weekly. There will be; Just Amy on Mondays, Life of a modern Feminist on Wednesdays and Sexcapades on Fridays.

Look at you go, perv ๐Ÿ˜, don’t worry, I’m one too. So we’re perfect together. Now, besides all that, I’ll be posting content almost every other day. Poetry, fiction, some picture prompts, maybe even videos, we’ll see.

I just basically want us to have fun together and your comments are very important to me, so don’t forget to leave one, also follow, subscribe and comment too.

So, that’s basically what’s gonna be happening, and I’ll be dropping the introductory posts for the three main segments next week or if you’ll like me to drop the intros this week and move into content proper next week, let me know.

I know we’ll have loads of fun together, so just stick around.


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